Feb 13, 2015

Creating Change 2015

I was recently given the opportunity to travel to Denver for something called "Creating Change". This event is a conference on LGBT equality, attracting nearly 4,000 people. This event landed on my calendar because Sir was to speak against conversion therapy and its harmful effects. I happily agreed to come and support him, before being told that he was also participating in a kink themed workshop; a workshop that I was to be involved in: as his subject.

I got in Thursday night, when Sir, myself, and a good local friend had dinner and spent a short time at the Denver Eagle. Upon returning to the hotel, we found a group of 10 people waiting outside our hotel room door for us. Sir had planned a little get together for some members of the community that had an interest in kink. We had a busy weekend ahead of us.

Friday morning brought some excellent fun prior to starting the day. We rushed down to a conference room that was rather difficult to locate, just in time for Sir to participate in the workshop about conversion therapy. After the important workshop was finished, we headed off to grab a quick lunch. After lunch, we headed back up to the room to catch up on a little bit of rest before the big kink workshop. While the workshop was all planned out, my role was to be Sir's subject of a flogging demonstration. It wasn't until right before the workshop started that Sir told me that our portion of the demonstration would also include paddling.

Our first workshop of the morning attracted about 50 people, so I was expecting to see about the same amount for our second workshop. Sir had a somewhat higher estimate of about 100 people. As we started the workshop, there were easily 200 people sitting and standing in the room awaiting the presentation. The room was packed. When the chairs were full, people sat on the floor of the isle. When the isle was full, people stood behind the chairs in the back of the room. I would say that the room was 'standing-room-only', but there wasn't even room for that. Everyone involved in the workshop was floored by the turn out. The workshop got underway and when Sir got to the topic of roles, he used our relationship as an example and wasted no time in ordering me into the spotlight and onto my knees. To put it as simple as possible, I was extremely nervous. I don't do well in front of large crowds, and here I was, on my knees, in front of the largest audience I have ever been in front of in my life. While nervous, this time in the spotlight worked well to acclimate me to the additional attention. Before long, I was ordered back to my spot on the floor just off the "stage" area.

After a couple of additional information segments, the crowd was pleased that it was finally time to see the live demonstrations, which was what attracted many of them to the workshop. Most workshops at this event involved speeches and presentations, so live action demonstrations draw a little more attention. For the duration of the workshop, I was tasked with session photography. The time finally came for me to put my phone down and rejoin Sir before the crowd. But this time was different. This time I would be paddled. As I walked up to Sir, he began to reintroduce me to the crowd, but he did something unexpected. Knowing I was nervous to be in front ofso many people, he pointed it out to the audience and asked for a round of applause for me. The room erupted with the sounds of clapping and cheering, and all for little ol' me. I just about melted. I understood right then, just how excited and serious this group of people was about learning about what we do. I was no longer nervous. I was no longer afraid. I was thrilled and high on life. I can't thank Sir enough for breaking that barrier for me. I will never be afraid to speak or demonstrate kink in front of a large crowd again.

The workshop continued with other demonstrations, including rope work, temperature play, additional impact play, and another demo where I was flogged. When the workshop was over, we began to pack up our gear as the main presenters (Sir and three others) answered questions from the extra-curious members of the audience. Sir and I were both shocked and thrilled when one of the first questions came from a very young new comer, but was directed towards me, rather than any of the main presenters. This was my first real glimpse into Sir's life as an acitivist and teacher of the community. It was incredible to be able to speak to someone at such a young age about their curiosity and questions about kink. Additional questions, comments, and adorations really helped to hit home the reality that there is more interest in kink than one might see at first glance.

That is incredibly exciting.

Later that evening, we attended a drag show at the event before hosting another little informative play session in our room and calling it a night. Saturday morning started with another fun play session before starting the day. Sir and I got a chance to explore the flexibility of our roles as we both Dominated a guy together who was experiencing bondage for his first time. When we finished, we headed down to a kink caucus, where a small group of about 70 people got together to discuss kink in their region, how well it is accepted, and how to better improve its acceptance. After dinner, Sir had plans to play with a great local guy before the three of us headed back out to the Denver Eagle for an hour or so. Due to the success and overwhelming interest from the kink workshop, Sir had helped to organize a last minute, off the books, demonstration session that would allow the participants to get a little more hands-on than the workshop. We started this immediately after we left the bar. Everyone that participated seemed to have an incredible time. The smiles and laughter that I saw in that conference room in those early morning hours was heart warming.

Sunday started in the usual way, but included a very fun third party. When we finally managed to drag ourselves out of bed and pack, we headed down for a parting brunch before heading to the airport to return home.

This weekend was unlike anything I had experienced before. This was the first event I have ever attended that included the full spectrum of the LGBT community. I was there to help Sir teach, but in turn, ended up learning more about the community than I ever could have predicted. The support, love, and caring that this community holds for its members was enlightening and beautiful. I can't wait to be a part of it next year.