Oct 4, 2014

A New Chapter

This past weekend was a big weekend for Sir and I. While we have settled into our roles when around only each other, this weekend presented the first opportunity to see how things worked while surrounded by a large group of kinky friends, many of whom we both wish to play with.

I've known for years now that I eventually wanted to have a Sir. Not a Sir who turns into your pal when the scene is over, but a Sir that I could be dedicated to and expect the same dedication to me in return. Knowing that I wanted this, I've questioned just how doable it is when I have the desire to have a diverse range of kinky experiences with an equally diverse group of kinksters. Between my kink life and my relationship with my Sir, I always felt that one would likely end up detracting from the other.

With the kink community and play being very important to both of us, we agreed that we must work out exactly what our limits are when it comes to playing with others. This is a subject that we have both put a lot of thought into. We agreed that while we both belong to each other, we both need the ability to play with others. In most instances, play is allowed with permission from the other. We have both agreed that permission will likely be granted in a majority of cases unless issues of safety, health, or threats to our relationship status are present.

With both of us being intelligent and responsible adults, issues of health and safety don't concern us as much as threats to our relationship status. Our biggest fears come in the form of jealousy. This weekend was an excellent test of our commitment to each other.

We aced it.

As it turns out, you can have your cake and eat it too. Sir and I have the utmost respect and love for each other. At the end of the day, we end up back in each others arms with huge smiles on our faces. What more could you ask for?

And so begins a new chapter in my kink life.